Family Counselling

“Behind every child who believes in himself are the parents who believe in themselves first.” Parenting is not a competition, but a team work of parents to give the child the life he/she deserves. We all are in continuous stress of parenthood because all of us are striving to be the best parent. We are the first teacher for them. They always look up to us to see what appropriate behaviour is and what is not. A child adopts all our behaviours, beliefs and values. So, it becomes imperative that we always model healthy behaviour in front of our children.

Marital problems, childcare arrangements, financial issues, school change or difference in opinion of parents are certain challenges faced while parenting. It doesn’t matter where the conflict lies, certain positive change in parenting will go miles. Counselling helps in mustering the support and resources you need to be the best parent possible and provide stable and healthy experiences for your child.

WHAT TO EXPECT IN COUNSELLING SESSIONS

• The first session is devoted for listening to your concerns in detail, providing an environment where you can freely share the challenges you are facing in dealing with your child. It helps you understand how the process of counselling can help you deal with the issues.

• In the next step, the counsellor helps you to establish goals which may be to address and resolve your personal problems in a healthy way so that the children are not affected by the negativity of the problem.

• We guide you towards the goals which are established with you, by improving communication, strengthening your conflict-resolution skills, boundary setting or parental style. The sessions may include personal communication with you or it may include the whole family.

• We at Career Boost Counselling empower you to deal with your concerns on your own as you move ahead in your journey of parenthood.

COMMON ISSUES WITH WHICH PEOPLE APPROACH

•Parenting Strategies

•Art of Parenting

•Smart parenting

•Parenting with pleasure

•Handling teenagers

•Handling difficult children

We all have different expectations from our marriage. A couple had come seeking counselling before their divorce. Both told that they had given their best, but the other one was never satisfied. Both felt it was not working for them. During the individual session, it came out that the husband always used to give gifts, take her places and do his best, but wife was never happy. And the wife felt that she had been highly devoted and sacrificed everything for him, but he was never satisfied and had never said “I Love you” even once in last 7 years of marriage. The reason was, husband who was a visual learner used to show his love through gifts, but wife being an auditory one wanted to hear it from him.

Individually all of us are good, but marriage requires us not to be alike but to celebrate differences together. Premarital Counselling can do wonders to maintain a stable relationship and help two individuals understand what a stable relationship is, before tying the knot. This knot is not between two persons, but also their families, their goals, their choices, their mindsets, their opinions and their pasts. Marriage Counselling is helpful to prepare you for adjustments to this beautiful new life stage of life.

For healthy relationships we need to learn skills of open communication and conflict resolution. Sometimes we can love a person and still be toxic for them due to our past experiences, unresolved insecurities, distorted patterns of thinking, ideas of relationship, anger issues and controlling behaviour. Counselling helps us to make positive changes within ourselves now, to set the stage for a successful marriage later.

WHAT TO EXPECT IN COUNSELLING SESSIONS

>• Identify and manage your expectations from marriage

• Create a shared vision for your life together

• Learning to love and respect the partner and other relations

• Understand personality styles and relationship dynamics

• Understanding healthy ways to deal with future conflicts and learn effective conflict resolution

• Improve communication skills for healthy communication

• Deeper understanding of your partner’s needs enhance the emotional connection

• Learn and come to a common platform in issues like parenting, money, sex etc.

A couple thinking of marriage could use the pre-marital counselling space to objectively and systematically look at how each of them think about marriage, talk through their expectations, hopes and fears and in the process develop a better understanding of each other. Such a discussion often helps prepare the couple for the marriage ahead, well beyond the wedding itself.

A successful marriage is a progressive work which requires constant nurturing. Ups and downs are part of married life which most of the time we are able to handle. But sometimes we feel distant and stuck. We love the person, but still draw apart and few questions start bothering us. Are these questions bothering you?

• Are you are having challenges in communicating with each other – are there fights, resentment, or other unpleasantness?

• Do you have difficulties in dealing with in-laws, money, career, parenting etc ?

• Do you feel that the sexual relationship with your partner is lacking emotions and quality ?

• Do you feel disconnected and don’t feel warmth in the relationship anymore?

• Do you feel like something isn’t working the way it should be?

• Are you confused whether to hold on or move on?

For healthy relationships we need to learn skills of open communication & conflict resolution. Couples can feel apprehensive about initiating therapy as it would mean acknowledging the challenges that their relationship is undergoing. Some are not able to identify where things might be going wrong. And end up putting the problems under the carpet, till a significant event- occurs and they are alarmed by the unexpected future. Through professional help the couple will be able to see their partners beyond their personal assumptions and interpretation. The counsellor helps the couple become aware of unique patterns of interaction in their relationship. Together goals are set for replacing unhelpful patterns and increasing helpful patterns.

WHAT TO EXPECT IN COUNSELLING SESSIONS

The objective of marriage counselling is to explore the relationship to understand how the couple views the challenges they are facing and to address their concerns for common goal, that is happy married life.

• The first session is for hearing out the concern from both of them. We try to understand how a situation or circumstance has impacted both the partners and their relationship. Once there is clarity on what is to be addressed and there is a rapport between the counsellor and the couple, the counsellor attempts to help formulate couple goals that work for both.

• Subsequently, the counsellor helps to gain insight on their relationship, their role and responsibilities, patterns that keep them stuck feelings that prevent them from reaching out to each other and past that may be responsible for the situation.

• Then if required individual sessions with both partners is undertaken to understand their perspective.

• Next proceed with a joint couple session to integrate that information to help the couple understand how to resolve their challenges, understand each others’ expectations from a neutral perspective.

• Reflection of understanding of the scenario and implementation of lesson learnt is important here for long term effect.

• We empower them with appropriate communication and conflict resolution skills to face future challenges on their own, taking each other’s perspective into consideration.

COMMON ISSUES WITH WHICH PEOPLE APPROACH

• • Pre Marriage counselling

• Marriage Counselling

• Positive communication in relationship

• How to manage anger and anxiety

• How to Show Love and affection

• Positive thinking in relationship

• Adjustment skills

• Life style Management

• Improving Quality of life

• Art of Appreciation

• Overcoming Depression